Texting Rules to Live and Love By | Relationships

Guide to texting from the first date and beyond

by Kait Fowlie
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Quality Over Quantity
Curb your enthusiasm in the early days of dating. Return his texts, but make him work for it. He?s not going to think you?re being impolite if you wait a couple hours to respond, he?ll wonder what you?re up to that you?re not waiting by the phone. Be elusive and a bit ambiguous and you?ll put his imagination to work.

Remember That Humour Doesn't Always Translate Well Via Text
You know the ?you had to be there? kind of joke? Some jokes require you to actually be there in order to have the desired effect. Especially if you don?t know each other well, when you?re not there to see each other?s gestures and hear their voice inflection a joke can easily become misconstrued. This is especially true if your humour is particularly sarcastic. Until you and your texting buddy know each other?s sense of humour inside and out, spare yourself the crazy-making wondering if your joke was interpreted the wrong way.

Only Sext When He's Your Boyfriend
Even if he starts sexting you right away, resist the urge to reciprocate. If you haven?t built up a solid foundation of trust, you have no idea who could be reading those texts. Baring your dirtiest ideas in big bold font might leave you feeling pretty vulnerable. While there?s no harm in being flirty, don?t overwhelm him with images. As a general rule, if you wouldn?t feel comfortable saying it to his face, don?t send it to his phone. If you want to be taken seriously, don?t give him any reason to treat you like a floozy.

Be Creative
Resorting to sex right off the bat to peak his interest is bound to backfire. Using more creative ways to increase the attraction guarantees a more long lasting interest. When he asks what you?re up to, send him a pic of the killer cookies you just made, or snap a pic of your girl?s night in action. You want him to think you have a busy and interesting life. In the same way that Bridget Jones plonked down the phone on Daniel Cleaver after declaring that she didn?t have time to talk because she was ?very busy and important?, the brief tidbits you send via text are your chance to indicate that you are, in fact, busy and important. Even if you?re painting your toenails and reading magazines on a Friday night, the luxury of texting is that he?ll never be able to know.

Don't Just Text for Entertainment
Before you give into the urge to text him, ask yourself what you want out of this text. If you?re bored and just want someone interesting to talk to, reach out to a pal, not the dude you?re trying to lure. (Remember ? you want him to think you?re so interesting you?re never bored.) Of course, everyone has a different relationship with their phones, but generally, men don?t tend to view texting as a form of entertainment. They?re more likely to see texting as a communicative tool. That?s why texts between bro?s tends to be all business ? place, date, time, done, all in one word answers. Before you?ve cultivated that interest, he might view chatty texts as annoying. This goes back to quantity over quality. Make sure all your texts are interesting, and he?ll be stoked whenever his phone beeps.

Source: http://29secrets.com/sections/relationships/texting-rules-live-and-love

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